What Games Are Like For Someone Who Doesn't Play Games

What Games Are Like For Someone Who Doesn't Play Games

About a year ago, my wife asked if she could play a game. Instead of simply saying yes, I decided to run an informal experiment where I had her play a sampling of games to see how, after a lifetime of not playing games, she would do. These are the results.

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  1. Resie Fan on January 16, 2022 at 2:37 pm

    This is partly why your married. Your not an asshole 👍👍👍 so many guys can not have patience for a woman let alone kids. Happy new year and thanks for the video

  2. TheCrimsonFckr on January 16, 2022 at 2:39 pm

    I dont care what anyone says, but Hollow Knight is absolute dogshit.

  3. gametranslator on January 16, 2022 at 2:42 pm

    What’s the game at 2:10?

  4. Nonremittal Senpai on January 16, 2022 at 2:42 pm

    Man i had seen this the day it came out, to see that it now has 11M views is mind blowing. This is one of them classic videos of the internet and it is still fricking awesome.

  5. Kyrk Kordel on January 16, 2022 at 2:45 pm

    This video was informative and provided a perspective I had no ability to access personally. Appreciate the empathy this allows for those I introduce this pasttime to. M’thanks.

  6. Explorer Mike on January 16, 2022 at 2:45 pm

    From the outside looking in, from a big life view, video games seem like such an enormous waste of a life. I see people play them for hours and hours and day after day. They do little else and have developed very rudimentary life skills. I understand that there is a tremendous attraction to them for some people, but just watching from the outside looks like endless self-gratification. Real life actually does exist.

  7. Georg Wilde on January 16, 2022 at 2:47 pm

    Your wife doesn’t know which buttons are where, meaning she cannot touch type, meaning she isn’t competent computer user? Good financial prospects when 99% of jobs are done on computers.

  8. Emoji Bones on January 16, 2022 at 2:47 pm

    This is so interesting and helps me understand why some types of games are so frustrating for me. I had access to a computer and a pile of hand me down games growing up, but I never used a controller until I got a switch lite last year. And I had to ask Twitter for advice bc I too didn’t know that the joystick button pushed down.

  9. Faz Bonfire on January 16, 2022 at 2:48 pm

    While I consider myself a hardcore gamer today, I still remember when I was gifted pokemon crystal with a GBA back when I was 6. I was STUCK in the house at the very beginning because I had NO IDEA you could use the carpet as a sign on where the exit was…. I was stuck in this house for TWO DAYS, and then I called my uncle who was and is still pretty familiar with video games to help me. When he showed me how to get out, I felt like a dumb piece of garbage lol
    Awesome video !

  10. Olga Lavrenteva on January 16, 2022 at 2:49 pm

    Thanks for the titles in Russian

  11. Resie Fan on January 16, 2022 at 2:49 pm

    Thank god your not one of those demon’s souls nerd douches who tells people to get good….well done your a true human being.

  12. Razbuten on January 16, 2022 at 2:49 pm

    I used to have a pinned comment here that answered questions, but, like…I can’t find it? It vanished, I think? I do not know why or how or if I did it myself and forgot, but I just figured I’d take the time to say hello and remind you to not get mad at me for saying lady I live with. Thank you.

  13. Cameron Smith on January 16, 2022 at 2:53 pm

    My first major hiccup in a video game (other than just being bad in general) was in the first Kingdom Hearts, where Sora wakes up in the middle of the night, the boats are gone, and the heartless swarm you on the dock. I’d spent way too long trying to fight them with my wooden sword before ultimately giving up, until I found a kid at my elementary school who had gotten past it, and informed me that you have to go on top of the elevated island to continue. This was a key moment for me in realizing that answers won’t always be given to you, and sometimes you need to go out, explore, and find new alternatives, which ultimately has proven useful in a lot of games. Cool life lesson too

  14. Knitz on January 16, 2022 at 2:53 pm

    I’m sad you used the Stardew Valley soundtrack but didn’t have her play it 😭 great video though.

  15. maximuspower2 on January 16, 2022 at 2:53 pm

    The things you can and can’t do remind me of escape rooms. Sure, there are many creative things one can think of doing, but the ones that actually work are really cool too.

  16. Angela B on January 16, 2022 at 2:54 pm

    This was such a cool vid to watch. I’m a lifetime gamer in my late 30’s and honestly I’ve never stopped to think about how much intuition it takes to play video games. As you’ve discovered, it takes a LOT of intuition to really dive into just about any game.

    My partner games too but not nearly as much as I do. We game together every weekend and I often find myself frustrated watching HIM get frustrated at the things he does wrong or the hardest way possible when for me it’s blatantly obvious what you should and shouldn’t do. A lot of times you have to think like the programmer and find what and how the game wants you to do. But I get it now. I never show my frustration and do my best to give helpful hints without just giving the whole thing away. But I think I’ll have a lot more internal patience after watching this lol Thanks for making and posting this vid, and an even bigger thanks to the lady you live with for her endless amount of patience, good humor, tolerance, and all around good sportsmanship for playing these games at your request 💗

  17. macdonald chaboka on January 16, 2022 at 2:54 pm

    Dark souls is frustrating even for me(been playing games since birth) back tracking is extremely not cool, thats why in sekiro checkpoints are near to the bosses(hard ones) guardian ape

  18. Empryrean on January 16, 2022 at 2:54 pm

    Ah I’m so glad I stumbled upon this. My partner likes watching letsplays and stuff but doesn’t actually game and I could not figure out why she struggled so badly when she decided that she wanted to try Ghost of Tsushima.. not sure how to support her in learning it though

  19. titain -ivia on January 16, 2022 at 2:57 pm

    The lady you live with is a Legend

  20. bleepinbutts on January 16, 2022 at 2:58 pm

    I appreciate this so much. Thank you for your patience with her. This was something I went through growing up. I still have troubles with the controls and I’m 30 now! Some games jus’t don’t cut it but I do enjoy open world games a bit better.. and I’ve noticed how breath of the wild was much easier for me to pick up on. I found this video comforting.. so thank you again for all of this!

  21. Christopher Lowery on January 16, 2022 at 2:59 pm

    This is genuinely pretty fascinating. I’ve somehow never heard the phrase “the language of games” used before, but it’s a perfect descriptor. Like, when I play something with my mom & always have to remind her that “the bottom button on the right” is the jump button, I never considered just how ingrained that knowledge was in my mind. Idk if that’s a good or bad thing, but good on your wife for being a good sport with this video!

  22. amogos ??? on January 16, 2022 at 3:00 pm

    1:48 someone know what’s the name of this game?

  23. Evan Wentz on January 16, 2022 at 3:03 pm

    While watching this I realized a few things… One of the first things I do when entering a new game world is test a games limitations and mechanics. I also realized that I avoid games that make me retread following failure because I agree, 5 hours of frustration is not worth 5 minutes of exhilaration.

    This was quite an interesting video.

  24. liav bohadana on January 16, 2022 at 3:03 pm

    That was one of the best videos i’ve ever saw , so educational and so intresting , good job bro

  25. peruperu 0516 on January 16, 2022 at 3:03 pm

    To be fair Jumping out of the window in the beginning of Skyrim is not very clear. It did take me an hour to figure it out lol

  26. fellisoho on January 16, 2022 at 3:04 pm

    i’m trying to get into my mother into video games. she is interested into games like call of duty. we are gonna buy a play satiation that we can share. idk how it will go as the video games she has played in the past are pac man, tetris, pong and galaga.

  27. Duck alotl on January 16, 2022 at 3:06 pm

    What game was at 3:40 ?

  28. Angelo Ramos on January 16, 2022 at 3:07 pm

    I had an older roomate back when I was studying at Uni and he was working in the city, he in his late 40’s never played video games or even familiar with in nor interested. When I introduced to him medieval total war, he was immediately hooked. He said that its the perfect game for him because total war didnt really need that much technical skills, only strategy.

  29. Tink the artist on January 16, 2022 at 3:07 pm

    Imagine not learning all the stuff from games we know. I’d be so dumb.

  30. Breno Souza on January 16, 2022 at 3:08 pm

    One thing I find fantastic in tabletop RPGs is that players can try to do absolutely anything they can think of and there will be a real time person controlling and calculating the response of the world (the game master) so that what that player is trying to do is going to have a response of the system.

    The curious part is that, sometimes, the response the player expects is completely different of what the Game Master thinks is the realistic or appropriate response! And then you have that awkward moment when (using the doom barrel explosion as an convenient example) the player says "I shoot the barrel" and the GM is like "okay…nothing happens" and they just stare at each other in confusion. Learning how to navigate these aspects is a challenge – and part of the fun – of playing as the game master of an RPG

  31. LyZhongo on January 16, 2022 at 3:08 pm

    "I only made that assumption because of years of being conditioned to do it"

    Dude. That happened to me with a few weeks ago with Hollow Knight

    I was playing with a friend by turns, and as soon as I saw a hotspring I ran to it just because I associated the mechanic with a game I love: "Earthbound"

    Hotspring = Recharge powers/heal/safe zone

    When I did it my friend couldn’t believe it: "WAIT- How did you know you could do that?? I didn’t know! What?!"

  32. Bachvutuyetvoi on January 16, 2022 at 3:09 pm

    Wow, u just gave me a very interesting experience. I’ve not known about your channel b4 so Idk what your videos are about, at first reading the title I expected something like philosophy (another wrong lessons learned right?) 😂 but watching this experiment is really fun and insightful some way, I am an average gamer and looking at things from a different POV is really enlightening. Thank u so much for making this vid!

  33. Tink the artist on January 16, 2022 at 3:10 pm

    Man I don’t know your wife but that’s cute as fuck my guy..

  34. rasol alvarez on January 16, 2022 at 3:18 pm

    What’s the name of the game at 1:29?

  35. Kieran Jones on January 16, 2022 at 3:19 pm

    He said what the experiment would be and I lay down on my sofa and just smiled

  36. Filbie on January 16, 2022 at 3:19 pm

    What game was the footage at the end from?

  37. G973 on January 16, 2022 at 3:19 pm

    Wait, you can sprint in mario?

  38. You'll never know me because this is the internet on January 16, 2022 at 3:20 pm

    Welp the only games I’ve ever played are moba games mainly a game called mobile legends bang bang I have tried pubg before and that shit is hard affff I’m so bad at aiming and moving basically just playing, oh and zombi Vs plants, I’ve tried playing games in play station and let me tell you IT WAS HARD i gave up after 2 mins,I really Envy my brother, so thanks for the video I really want to get into the gaming world

  39. Matthew Ford on January 16, 2022 at 3:20 pm

    Wait she went with Hadvar in Skyrim? Did she suffer a recent head trauma? It seems only a gamer interested in seeing 100% would choose the folks that were about to lop your head off instead of the friendly rebels.

  40. Axel Wülf on January 16, 2022 at 3:23 pm

    Anyone who thinks Dark Souls is hard, obviously never played Disney games for the Sega Genesis

  41. the steam doge on January 16, 2022 at 3:23 pm

    "The lady i live with" lol

  42. ChidoriDragon on January 16, 2022 at 3:23 pm

    I feel like game devs from all over are going to be referencing this when crafting new player experiences XD (I know I will be)

  43. Taddeus Thompson on January 16, 2022 at 3:23 pm

    This is a great video! This experiment is brilliant, low key. I need to try it!

  44. Limit Break on January 16, 2022 at 3:24 pm

    The fact that you call her “the lady i live with” fucking KILLS ME

  45. The Kingdom Of Balance on January 16, 2022 at 3:26 pm

    This is very interesting to me. It reveals a lot about how people think. I find it intriguing because when I started playing video games back in the 90’s I didn’t have access to people who could teach me how to play them. As I watched this video I thought about how I learned all the different games I played on pc and consoles. I definitely found some things relatable but I remember that what drove me was mainly curiosity. Like “what does this button do?” Or if something showed up on the screen I would be curious about what that is. And honestly even after thirty years I still do that kind of thing. I stare at textures and graphics and huds whenever I notice something I am unclear about. And then I experiment like “is this gonna happen again? What happens if I do it from the other side?” Etc.

    I’ve also watched my mother try to play games and other people as well who don’t normally play games. And I noticed that they approach it with fear rather than curiosity. They worry about messing up and don’t try anything other than what is told to them as instructions. It is very strange to me because I feel that fundamental component of “play” is something that toddlers learn when they play with blocks. I guess I never really “grew up” properly. – Lily

  46. Annika Lantz on January 16, 2022 at 3:27 pm

    As someone who couldn’t game as a child but always had an interest in it, I can agree that when I started gaming I was underwhelmed. More frustrating and less fun than I thought it would be, but now I know it’s because I didn’t know the language. The barrier is real, don’t let it stop you

  47. jack will on January 16, 2022 at 3:29 pm

    Sorry lady, the Gaming industry failed you…

  48. ::::::::::Y::::::::::: on January 16, 2022 at 3:33 pm

    Ngl u picked the worst games going

  49. Yang738 on January 16, 2022 at 3:35 pm

    I love that you let your wife play Yoku’s island express in the end and explained stuff to her. It’s a really fun game and I hope it was much less frustrating for her to play than the other games in the experiment xD

  50. Filbie on January 16, 2022 at 3:37 pm

    This reminds me of the first final fantasy game I ever played. I was never taught how the mechanics worked and ran away from each fight because I didn’t want to do battle, not realizing that was integral to the level up mechanics. I finally got to a boss that I couldn’t run from and got stuck. I had to ask someone who basically ridiculed me for not knowing that I had to fight all these monsters in order to level up. It seems simple to those with experience, but without it, things that aren’t implicitly explained CAN be barriers to enjoyment.

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